Do you blame others for something that you could conceivably do something about? These days we all seem to live in a blame culture. Parents blame teachers for their children’s poor performance at school, dieters blame their work colleagues bringing in cakes for the fact they can’t seem to lose weight, while many of us blame the government for the ills of society (it’s not all their fault!). Some people even blame their current behaviour on the way they were brought up as children by their parents.
Blame isn’t constructive though – it can actually be destructive in that it stops you taking control and doing something about situations you don’t like. In other words, it stops YOU being effective. It can also instill a sense of powerlessness as well as guilt – your own and that of other people. Blaming someone else doesn’t necessarily make them alter their behaviour. On the contrary it can have a negative effect since it can make them feel as if they can’t change (that whole powerlessness thing again!).
The way to banish the blame and turn it to your advantage is to simply to cut it out. That doesn’t mean though that you should take the blame yourself, rather you should attempt to move on. Do this by focusing on letting go. Try some deep breathing, meditation and banish the blame out of your life for good. Learning to take responsibility for your own actions give you more control – of your own life!